Tuesday, December 5, 2017

2018 a vision

Hello friends,
Last week I was encouraged by my coach to share my 2018 vision with the universe. I chose to do a FB live on my personal page last week. I was so nervous that I forgot to share much of what I wanted to share. So I decided, I'd also share my vision here on my blog.
A great way to declare a vision is to speak as if you have already achieved the vision you are declaring. So, if you ask me at the end of 2018 how my new business venture went, this is what I'll say.

2018 was amazing!! I've created and grown Wildflower Souls into a safe space for women to reconnect with their one true soul. My sister Patti, created an amazing logo for me. It completely embodies everything Wildflower Souls is. She, along with my bestfriend and IT guy, Andre have created a beautiful website for me. I've learned how to use MailChimp to send beautiful and joyful newsletters to my growing email list.
I've held 6 free SoulBook gatherings in my home this year. Sarah, from Her Wellness downtown has also provided rental space for me and I have held 4 other Brave Girl workshops there. Even women I have never met have joined me. Every women who joined me in these gatherings and workshops have left with a renewed self love and a taste of what Soul Restoration is. Many are telling me that they now feel as if they have enough love to also give to our community.
My May retreat, held at Summer Park House on Miller Lake, sold out. In fact, there was more interest than I had expected. It was exactly what I hoped for. Darci and her amazing staff helped me and my helpers create an AMAZING retreat space. The peace and calm of the lake feeling our souls. My 10 guests walked away with renewed love for themselves and others. We celebrated our sameness. We created pretty personal art. The women learned that their story matters. The women realized that they are beautiful souls that are still learning, they realized that the women next to them are beautiful souls who are still learning. They gave each other an abundance of grace cards. My women discovered that no matter what age they are, they are still becoming. They still have dreams and hopes and those dreams and hopes matter. I witnessed miracles. Darci and I are already planning for 2019. 
I learned a lot about being a leader. I learned to plan big and small events. I learned how to make a budget for those events, which lead me to making a budget for myself. WHAT!? I had a lot of help this year. The more I showed up for this big dream, the more the people I loved showed up to help me. I created connection this year. And I can't wait to see what I create in 2019!!


So there you have it folks, this is what my 2018 will look like.  

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

Glue is good for the soul.

Hi Friends!


I'm so happy to tell you that my very first workshop Soul Book went really well. We were a small group, though I believe the women that were meant to be there, were there. I know many of you expressed interest in join us but were in available this time around, don't worry I will be doing this again. More on that at the end of the post.

The weather outside was not awesome but inside was nice and warm and cheery. We had two crock pots filled with warm winter food and cheese filled turkey wraps (I've been enjoying those left overs), a perfect combination of comfort foods. I had opted for a pot luck lunch and I will totally do that again. As women, even when we are meant to be guests, we want to help the hostess and having a potluck was the perfect way to make this happen. And I was able to be completely present because I didn't have to be away from them, preparing our lunch.

Each women came with their own crafty skills, we had a sewer and a painter, and they used those skills in their books. Two completely different beautiful books were created. Because we were a small group, I worked on my sample book, using mostly only a glue stick  and paper. My objective here is to show a very simple example, proving that ANYONE can complete this project.


There was complete silence while we cut out our statements. But, it wasn't until we got to the end of the day and the women shared some of the pages they made, that I knew that is project is life changing. I could see that it was doing for them, what it had done for me. It was pretty cool to watch that.

Soul Book is a beautiful gentle reminder of who you really are. A reminder that your life makes a difference. It's even more special because you make it yourself. I believe that everyone should have the opportunity take this course, so I've decided that as long as I am meant to teach, Soul Book will always be offered for FREE. Check out my workshops link on the side panel and you will see my next Soul Book offering there.

I hope this find you well. Love you!

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

I've got a new name and a new look.

Hi Friends,

A quick post to share my new name Wildflower Souls (there will be a website to follow soon) and my new look.
I'm excited to be able to use this platform to share all the beautiful offerings I'll have in the new year. Stay tuned!!
Love you all!!

Sunday, October 15, 2017

SoulBook Gathering




It seems to me that the world is in turmoil. The hate sounds very loud right now doesn't it?  It does not have to be that way. We can all choose love and kindness. Some times it can seem overwhelming to choose kindness and love.  Hard to know where to start. The answer is very simple, you start with yourself and continue one person at a time.

BraveGirls/BraveLiving have come up with a wonderful soul filled event to get us started on loving ourselves first.

Please join me in my home for this FREE SoulBook Gathering. We will create an adorable chunky book which will remind us of what is important. Take some time before the hustle and bustle of the holiday season for some self-care. Bring a friend or come yourself.

Space is limited and some instructions and a supply list will need to be sent to participants prior to the gathering, so please be sure to RSVP by sending an email to cadair@bmts.com

There are two event options to choose from:
Wednesday November 15, 7-9 for three weeks
Saturday November 18, 10- 4 potluck.

I would love for you to join me. Please email me at cadair@bmts.com if you have any questions.

Monday, September 25, 2017

A new adventure

Hello Friends!

I know it has been a long time and I hope to do better at that in the near future. I want to give you an update with a new exciting adventure I'm embarking on. I'm starting my own business and it will be centred around a life changing course from Brave Girls Club (soon to be Brave Living) called Soul Restoration.


I've completed this curriculum twice at camp and twice online and spent the last week training on the content. I believe in this course. It has given me tools to live a brave life, an every day life. Everyone has wounds, everyone has lies they have believed for a long time, no one gets out of this world with out them. And no one has to let those things define you. You are not your wounds, you are not your lies. You have more control over your life than you think you do. That is what Soul Restoration has taught me. It has truly changed my life and it changes my life every time I do it. Even in training last week, I cleaned out more stuff.  Think of every lie you have believed about yourself. Soul Restoration can help you tell the truth about those things.

I 100% believe in this curriculum and believe every human soul can benefit from it, as long as you are willing to do the work, cause some of it will be really hard. And you wont be alone, your restoration will be with you and I'll be your guide through the course.

So here's the deal, I'll be bringing Soul Restoration to my circle. I'm not 100% sure what that will look like yet. There will be some workshops I'll be offering as a taster and to start I'll probably be offering Soul Restoration in my home done over a number of weeks. I'm also willing to do Soul Restoration one on one if someone wishes (it's usually done in a group setting).

Please stay tuned, I'll be updating you more soon.

Friday, January 1, 2016

2015 - I live


My New Year post last year confessed that I had depression. This year I confess that I still have depression. I had been hopeful that by this time this year I wouldn't but I do. And I expect to still have depression this time next year. Fortunately, I can say I no longer suffer from depression but I still live with it, every single day. And I have not done it alone, not by any means. I've also had do a lot of stuff to keep the darkness at bay. I'm going to share some of the things I have done this year, in the hopes to give someone else hope. Hope that it is possible to live with depression and have a full life.

 

 

I've checked in with my DR often. She is keeping a close eye on me as we adjust medications and just to generally see how I am doing. This has been an important piece in my care.

 

I have talked with various counsellors, both on the phone and in person. It's nice to be validated.

 

At the beginning of the year I started a new job. This has made a huge difference. I actually want to go to work now. Some days when snuggling with crying children I can't believe this is actually my job, that I actually get paid to do it. No more night shifts have helped a lot and not as many 12 hour shifts have helped me feel like I have a life. I may have to be there a little more often, but I'm a lot more productive on my days off because I don't feel like a zombie (and ya'll know how much I hate zombies) all the time. This job came with perfect timing.

 

I went to Brave Girls Camp in March. We laughed and laughed. We sang. Nancy cooked amazing food for us. We created. I didn't even freak out when my luggage was lost on both the way there and the way home. Two days on the way home spent with two other Brave sisters was just what I needed.

 

I went to Sister Camp in Arkansas in April. Run by a fellow Brave Girl (D'Wana), it was crucial in my self care. Art, lecture and nature. Lots of together time and lots of alone time if you wanted. Tons of yummy food. And Noah Luke. Noah Luke is D'Wana's little boy. We had an instant connection. He touched my face and told me he had missed me (even though we had just meet). He picked flowers for me. I was fully present with him. Children have a way of doing that to me.

 

Which brings me to my next point. I chose to be present with my niece and nephews. Spending a day at Storybook park with my Lexi turned into "The best day ever" (her words) and a really fun day for me too. Lexi is really curious and asks tons of questions, she has taught me to explain my health teaching to my patients more simply and to compare it to something they already know if I can.  Snuggling a sleeping Thomas is extremely relaxing. When Lochlan studies my face, I study his too. Lochlan instinctively knows that I am someone he can count on. He probably sees me better than anyone else and he is only 6 months old. 

 

I took the year off from dating. Seriously, I didn't have a single date and I'm completely okay with that. I really had to spend this year focusing on me and not putting all my hopes and dreams and desires and happiness in one basket..err boy. That said. I'm really excited to get back at it this year. So if you know anyone??

 
I served meals at our local soup kitchen. Helping others has helped me too.
 
Brave Girl University. Wow, that's all I can say. So may courses by so many beautiful souls. All of which have aided my self care.

 

I entered the 21st century and finally bought a cell phone and a smart phone at that. My cell phone has made me more connected with my siblings. Patti sends me photos of Loch often and if I'm feeling down I can just send a text to Katie telling her I love her and she always sends me one back. It has helped me feel less isolated from them. And it's the best way to get in contact with Dan and Tim.

 

Purging things out of my house has also made a difference. I love to keep everything but this year I started to look at the items in my home and in my closest and asked myself if they are useful or bring me joy. I've been carrying around lots of stuff that I have no use for anymore. It is perfectly okay to let go of things that no longer serve you, even if they use to mean a lot to you once. There are a few things I know I need to let go (like the CD player I practically wore out as a teenager or the giant bear I won at Canada's Wonderland when I was 8) that I'm not really ready to let go of yet. Part of my self care is recognizing that and being gentle with myself and knowing that when the time is right I will be able to let them go.

 

Letting go of things have also allowed me to curate my home. It meant going to second hand shops, flee markets and antique stores and picking items with purpose and joy. I'm getting to the point where everything in my house is here because I want it to be and not because I needed an item and someone gave it to me. I feel like I have created a home and I'm really proud of how it is coming together.

 

I spent a weekend in two small cottages only 20mis away from home writing my book, fleshing out Beth and Nate and Jake. Sharing my work with other writers. I need to write, even if no one ever sees it.

 

I went to an art dance retreat with a co-worker and I took back my dance. Dancing had never been the same after breaking up with my first boyfriend in my early 20s (we went dancing together often) and during this retreat, I just let go and dance felt authentic again. That has lead to Zumba class, Nia class and Backstreet Boy dance parties in my living room.

 

I am taking back my body. Depression has messed with it a little. I am seeing a dietician to help me put good things in my body. I am exercising more consistently. I am drinking lots of water. I have more energy and am not as tired anymore.

 

I stopped reading books I didn't want to read. That has meant I don't finish every book I pick up anymore. It has meant putting some books immediately in the give away pile after I've finished them.

 

I paid someone to cut the grass a couple times. I will be paying all summer this year. My grass is a constant stress for me - it just wont stop growing! No stress if I don't have to cut it.

 

I created a Saturday morning ritual. Yoga class, Farmers Market, Chai Tea latte and a wander downtown. It's a nice way to start the weekend.

 

I focused on my faith. I became part of a bible study of women whom I am so blessed to know. I pray every night. First thanking GOD for the day, asking for support for someone else and always ending asking GOD to prepare me for HIS plan. I'm starting to recognize when the enemy is speaking to me and I tell him to get lost.

 

 

It has been a full year, I've done a lot of work. I'm really excited to see what all that work will bring me for this year. I hope it will help me stop wasting time on Facebook, strengthen my boundaries, find the perfect art supply storage solution and plan more trips.

 

Welcome 2016, it's nice to meet you!

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Redifining Beauty?

This August I had the pleasure of having my four year old niece Lexi over for a sleepover. You can learn a lot from a four year old.
While she was getting dressed that morning she says; "I have a cute bum." "I have a cute belly."

"Who told you that?" I asked her.

"I just knowed."

Miss Lexi Lou


When relaying this to my 91 year old Grandmother a few weeks ago, she said; "Well someone must have told her that."

It got me thinking. Maybe someone did tell Lexi she has a cute bum or belly but she owns it. She declares it is true. I think we are born knowing what the best parts of us are. We LEARN what others think are the worst or less desirable parts of us are. Then we own it and declare it as true. We forget we ever knew what the best parts of us are.

It's a fact that babies are drawn to beautiful things. Why do you think they love necklaces and hair so much? They also don't know it's not polite to stare yet, so if you catch a baby staring at you, it's because they think you are beautiful. You know whom thinks I'm beautiful? My nephew Thomas.
 
Down the line we then have to RELEARN what our best parts are. Learn what they are by our definition and not anyone else's. I have been trying to learn this for a few years. The journey started with photos taken by Julia Busato. I wanted to love the body I was in, realizing that my body would never be the same was it was in that moment.



 
 
 
Beautiful right? And can you believe that I thought I was fat then? That's kinda screwed up. I wish I was still that size. At the moment I weigh more than I ever have and I'm not proud of it. But I also know how I got there and not all of it was in my control, depression will kill the love you have for your body, it will make you just not care. It will make you turn to comfort food in excess. It will make you eat to fill holes that are not satisfied by food but you need an instant fix and one cookie turns to 6 and you still feel empty.

Now that I am feeling better and being treated I can take action. I'm seeing a dietician in two weeks and I can't wait. And it's not about weight loss. It's about loving this body that GOD has given me right now. When you love your body, you want to take care of it, put good things in it, move it about to keep your heart healthy. That means drinking half my body weight in oz, taking the stairs at work, at least 150mins of exercise a week, wearing clothes that bring me joy and not just cause they fit, enjoying chips on Friday nights ONLY, lots of fruits and vegetables and allowing myself a cookie or two once in a while without feeling guilty and only eating if I'm hungry. And I bet the weight follows.

In the mean time I have to define the beautiful parts of my body for myself. No one has to tell me I have pretty eyes or sexy legs or a f***ing fantastic rack, I just knowed.